This is a very personal blog for me as I've been tested or rather the shades have been taken off so I can see the light. We go through life saying words and not truly knowing the meaning of such words till we are tested or questioned or things come into question. I'm creating this blog as a point of closure for me and possibly a lesson for someone reading. In this last year I have gone through some crazy things all relating to the word "friend", so to the point it turned me off from the word. I stopped using it. A few who I thought were my friends started changing on me for some reason, its also possible I was changing as well. Another possiblity is they were never my friend in the first place we just clicked over something and took it from there. All in all a lesson was learned. My character is to isolate myself until I figure out what's happening, think with a clear mind and then make my move. I started to question was I a good/great friend to these few who I felt were starting to get on shaky grounds with me. It bothered me for some time. The doubt and questions. I always know that in time things will reveal themselves as they should. If I consider myself yourfriend nothing will come between that! No man, No naysayers, or any judgment! I see you for you and accept you for you and all I ask is for the same in return, LOYALTY! I started to see these few lacked in that department. Of all we'd been through I was always there any time of the day for any of their problems or just for them to vent. I'm a great listener. When it became time for my crisis or to vent I'd get silence or a change of the subject, which made me feel that whatever I was saying didn't matter, yet I still allowed these few to stay in my life! Until one day all was revealed, guilt makes people do the strangest things. A person will disassociate themselves from you in order to not admit to that guilt if they don't feel they are truly wrong or feel its not that major a deal. In the end that guilt still lies there. When you know you've given your all to someone as a friend and know you did nothing for them to change their tone against you, you have to cut them off. In the end its the best. I lost a friendship early on for something so stupid to me but apparently that person felt so guilty they cut me off. Instead of talking to me they rather distance themselves. At first I was hurt but later looked at it as a lesson learned. They were never truly my friend in the first place I was just one who understood all they were going through and I would listen. Purpose fulfilled.
I later started to see the other "snakes" in the grass and started to pay attention. Oprah said something on her show years ago and it always stuck with me, (I'm paraphrasing) You will keep repeating mistakes until you learn from them. She also said God will keep showing you signs until you listen then you will no longer bump into that brick wall. Its a message that always stuck with me but I didn't use it when I should have. It wasn't until the final friendship lost that I was at full attention. He kept showing me the unnecessary people in my life and that I needed to eliminate them but my heart is big and my gift is helping others. I was on the border line. There comes a time when you realize you can only do but so much as a person that you have to realize you need to walk away for your sake and survival. I chose me!!
This last friendship lost was so devastating it physically hurt, I lost focus, I questioned everything and cried oceans. Of all I lost I never thought this friendship would be one of them. I sometimes would feel no one cared and people always wanted something from me. I was at a point I had nothing left to give. I was empty. For years I'd given up what I wanted to do for love or for others. I put more into others than I put into myself. Its still a battle as I care for people and empathize with them but above all I know now I come first. Losing this friendship as painful as it was, was a release from all I held onto. I could not move forward if I didn't let go. Oddly strangers helped me through. They gave me the support and kind words I needed to make me see I have a purpose I can NOT lay down and stop living. It has restored my hope that I am still the great friend I have always been and I have opportunities to make lasting friendships with people who see me for me and accept me for me, LOYALTY.
My purpose for this blog is to show you to be aware of the people in your life and their purpose in it. Being a friend is a heavy title to hold. It is a partnership like any other. One can not give more than the other and things remain "balanced". I've lost those friendships because they prevented me from seeing the other opportunities that lie ahead.
SOUL~MYSOULONPAPER™
2010©LMJ
Friday, July 30, 2010
TECHNOLOGY & RELATIONSHIPS
Lately I've come across many stories about people allowing/having issues in their relationship(s) because of technology. With all of these social networks and new ways of communicating via cellphone people are doing less "talking" versus typing. Relationships are being established through these new ways of technology. Many find it easier to type what they have to say versus having to verbalize it. You may not have an issue expressing your feelings but with many lifestyles today time is of the essence so typing is easier. I'm not saying having particular conversations via technology is better but just easier at times. Use your own judgment because you know your mate/friend better than anyone.
For instance if you're in a relationship and you as well as your mate are on Facebook depending on your relationship level it may be a good idea not to be friends with each other. Some people take out of content what their purpose is being on some of these social networks. I've seen marriages break up because of "airing" out too much of their business. I've seen relationships break up because ppl are friends with ex's or just because they "liked" a status of a person their mate doesn't like. I've seen friendships end because people take another's status personal or think they have been disrespected in some way. In any relationship too much of anything could be damaging so in my opinion its safe to keep things seperate so you don't create any unnecessary drama. Although one would say if your relationship is solid none of this would effect it, that is true to a point but you will never know what the heart, ego, pride, emotions, guilt, or "just because" will make any human being do.
Back to what your purpose is for being on such sites, you have to know why you are on such sites and stick to that plan if you are in a relationship. For instance when MySpace came out it was the in thing to do, everyone and their Mama was on it! You could be "friends" with your favorite celebrity, network, find friends, make new friends, blog, & get hooked on all the new apps they created but then Myspace got too reckless for some. Thus many switched to Facebook where it was more adult and private. You only accept people you know which makes it easier to navigate your friends, family, co-workers, and classmates. Some get out of hand on Facebook too but being you know these people you know some of how they operate. Some also network on Facebook and make added "friends" which is fine if you stay in line of your purpose. Then comes along Twitter, (LOL, its so fun), which to me is entertainment as well as networking. It is also an area to get motivation depending on who you follow. I dont suggest you get on all of these applications unless you are networking. Marketing/Promoting and networking via social networks is the new age.
Back to the subject at hand don't let social networks kill your friendship/relationship. In any relationship you need individuality aas well as a partnership. Be aware of the difference and don't cross the line of disrespect of your mate. Just because you have a platform to tell all your business doesn't mean you have to and further more doesn't mean everyone wants to listen. A relationship is between 2 people not 2 people and everyone on a social network!!!
SOUL~MYSOULONPAPER™
2010©LMJ
For instance if you're in a relationship and you as well as your mate are on Facebook depending on your relationship level it may be a good idea not to be friends with each other. Some people take out of content what their purpose is being on some of these social networks. I've seen marriages break up because of "airing" out too much of their business. I've seen relationships break up because ppl are friends with ex's or just because they "liked" a status of a person their mate doesn't like. I've seen friendships end because people take another's status personal or think they have been disrespected in some way. In any relationship too much of anything could be damaging so in my opinion its safe to keep things seperate so you don't create any unnecessary drama. Although one would say if your relationship is solid none of this would effect it, that is true to a point but you will never know what the heart, ego, pride, emotions, guilt, or "just because" will make any human being do.
Back to what your purpose is for being on such sites, you have to know why you are on such sites and stick to that plan if you are in a relationship. For instance when MySpace came out it was the in thing to do, everyone and their Mama was on it! You could be "friends" with your favorite celebrity, network, find friends, make new friends, blog, & get hooked on all the new apps they created but then Myspace got too reckless for some. Thus many switched to Facebook where it was more adult and private. You only accept people you know which makes it easier to navigate your friends, family, co-workers, and classmates. Some get out of hand on Facebook too but being you know these people you know some of how they operate. Some also network on Facebook and make added "friends" which is fine if you stay in line of your purpose. Then comes along Twitter, (LOL, its so fun), which to me is entertainment as well as networking. It is also an area to get motivation depending on who you follow. I dont suggest you get on all of these applications unless you are networking. Marketing/Promoting and networking via social networks is the new age.
Back to the subject at hand don't let social networks kill your friendship/relationship. In any relationship you need individuality aas well as a partnership. Be aware of the difference and don't cross the line of disrespect of your mate. Just because you have a platform to tell all your business doesn't mean you have to and further more doesn't mean everyone wants to listen. A relationship is between 2 people not 2 people and everyone on a social network!!!
SOUL~MYSOULONPAPER™
2010©LMJ
APPLICATION FOR POTENTIAL RELATIONSHIP EMPLOYMENT
THE DATING AGE TODAY IS KIND OF BANANAS, THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE WHO PREFER TO BE SINGLE OR ARE SINGLE BY DEFAULT FOR VARIOUS REASONS. FOR THE SMALL AMOUNT WHO WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR WANT TO DATE A FEW "POTENTIALS" ITS HARD LOOKING FOR ONE. SO A FEW WEEKS AGO I CAME UP WITH THIS IDEA FOR AN APPLICATION FOR "POTENTIAL RELATIONSHIP EMPLOYMENT", LOL. WHY WASTE TIME WHEN YOU CAN GET STRAIGHT TO THE POINT AND THEN MOVE ON IF THE APPLICATION DOESN'T SUIT YOU, JUST LIKE EMPLOYERS LOOKING FOR EMPLOYEES DO. WITH SO MANY FOLKS USING THE "I KEEP IT REAL" LINE THIS HELPS WEED OUT THE IDIOTS, STALKERS, LIARS, DEADBEATS, THOSE WHO JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX, MAMA'S BOYS ETC FROM THE ONES WHO ARE SERIOUS. TAKE THIS FOR WHAT YOU WILL, USE IT IN YOUR OWN WAY BUT TRUST YOU WILL BE INFORMED & ENTERTAINED.~MSOP
FULL NAME:
D.O.B.:
HEIGHT:
WEIGHT:
MEASUREMENTS(FEMALE):
SHOE SIZE:
ZODIAC:
U.S. CITIZEN:
IF NO ARE YOU IN PROCESS OF BECOMING A U/S/ CITIZEN? CAN YOU PROVIDE PROOF?:
NICKNAMES/ALIAS:
STATE OF CURRENT RESIDENCE:
RENT OR OWN?:
HOMETOWN:
HOW MANY PEOPLE IN HOUSEHOLD & WHO?:
HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOU MADE LESS $$ THAN YOUR MATE?:
HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOU WERE NOT THE BREADWINNER IN A RELATIONSHIP?:
MARITAL STATUS:
IF DIVORCED, HOW LONG?:
IF PREVIOUSLY MARRIED, HOW MANY TIMES & LENGTH OF MARRIAGE?:
IF PREVIOUSLY ENGAGED, HOW LONG & HOW MANY TIMES?:
IF NEVER MARRIED IS IT AN OPTION YOU WOULD CONSIDER?:
KIDS(SEX & AGES):
HAVE YOU EVER USED ABORTION AS A FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL?:
IF NO CHILDREN DID YOU ALMOST HAVE SOME?:
IF YOU HAVE NO CHILDREN WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE SOME?:
QTY OF MOTHERS/FATHERS:
DO YOU PAY CHILD SUPPORT, VOLUNTARILY/INVOLUNTARILY
CURRENT RELATIONSHIP WITH MOTHERS/FATHERS OF CHILDREN:
EMPLOYER:
LENGTH OF TIME AT CURRENT EMPLOYER:
HOW MANY JOBS IN LAST 5 YEARS:
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN CONVICTED OF A FELONY?:
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN ARRESTED?: IF MORE THAN ONCE, HOW MANY TIMES AND WHY?:
HAVE YOU SPENT TIME IN JAIL/PRISON? LENGTH OF BID?:
DATE OF LAST HIV/AIDS TEST:
CAN YOU PROVIDE PROOF OF RESULTS?:
WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO BE TESTED BEFORE HAVING SEX?:
HOW MANY SEX PARTNERS HAVE YOU HAD(INCLUDING 1 NIGHT STANDS)?:
EVER HAD A THREESOME?:
CONDOM TYPE USED?:
EVER HAD INTERCOURSE WITH THE SAME SEX?:
HAVE YOU EVER HAD AN STD? WHEN & WHAT?:
EVER SLEPT WITH A RELATIVE, KNOWINGLY/UNKNOWINGLY?:
DO YOU CURRENTLY TAKE ANY PRESCRIBED MEDICATIONS? IF SO, LIST MEDICATION & REASON FOR TAKING:
RELIGION?:
DO YOU BELIEVE IN GOD(WHATEVER NAME YOU CALL THE MOST HIGH)?:
DO YOU ATTEND CHURCH, A MOSQUE, KINGDOM HALL, OR SYNAGOGUE REGULARLY:
IF NOT DO YOU READ THE BIBLE, QUA'RAN OR OTHER BOOK RELATED TO YOUR RELIGION REGULARLY?:
HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA/GED?:
COLLEGE CREDITS OR COLLEGE DEGREE?:
IF DEGREE OBTAINED, WHAT COLLEGE AND YEAR?
MEMBER OF SORORITY/FRATERNITY?:
MEMBER OF MILITARY, IF SO WHAT BRANCH & HOW LONG?:
TATTOOS?:
HOW MANY AND LOCATION?:
GANG AFFILIATIONS:
PIERCINGS? IF SO HOW MANY & WHERE?:
FETISHES:
HOBBIES:
FAVORITE COLOR:
FOOD:
BOOK:
SONG:
SPORTS(PLAY(ED) OR LOVE TO WATCH):
HIDDEN TALENTS:
DO YOU OWN A SUIT?:
STATES VISITED:
COUNTRIES VISITED:
SIBLINGS:
POLITICAL VIEWS:
DO YOU VOTE? HAVE YOU EVER VOTED?:
ARE YOU ELIGIBLE TO VOTE?:
DO YOU HAVE A DRIVER'S LICENSE?:
EVER BEEN A VICTIM OF A VIOLENT CRIME?:
EVER HAD TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST AN EX?:
EVER BEEN INVOLVED IN A DOMESTIC DISPUTE? EXPLAIN:
HOW IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MOTHER?:
FATHER?:
SIBLINGS?:
CO-WORKERS?:
EMPLOYER?:
IN FIVE YEARS WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE IN LIFE?:
ARE YOU HAPPY OR CONTENT?:
LIST 5 THINGS YOU WOULD LIKE TO DO BUT ARE A LITTLE HESITANT ABOUT:
DO YOU COLLECT ITEMS EX: CARS, SPORTS MEMORABILIA, BOOKS, ETC.:
DESCRIBE YOUR IDEAL MATE:
WHAT ARE THE TOP 5 QUALITIES YOU CAN NOT SET ASIDE WHEN LOOKING FOR A MATE?:
PET PEEVES:
TURN ON(S):
TURN OFF(S):
EVER HAD A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?:
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS?:
HAVE YOU EVER CHEATED ON A MATE?:
HAVE YOU EVER DESTROYED A MATE'S PROPERTY BECAUSE OF ANGER/REVENGE?:
ARE YOU CONTROLLING?:
JEALOUS?:
HAVE YOU EVER STALKED AN EX?:
HAVE YOU EVER USED ANY CREDIT CARDS OR MONEY OF A MATE'S WITHOUT ASKING?:
CHEAP?:
AN INDIAN GIVER?:
SELFISH?:
ARE YOU STILL IN LOVE WITH AN EX?:
DO YOU WATCH PORN?:
FAVORITE TYPE?:
IS THERE ANYTHING YOU WON'T DO SEXUALLY?:
EVER BEEN SO DRUNK YOU WOKE UP NEXT TO SOMEONE YOU CAN'T REMEMBER?:
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS?:
ARE YOU GOOD FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX'S?:
DO YOU FEEL MEN & WOMEN CAN BE FRIENDS?: IF NOT WHY?:
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT DATING/MARRYING A WOMAN/MAN WITH CHILDREN?:
IF YOU COULDN'T HAVE CHILDREN & WANTED THEM WOULD YOU ADOPT?:
BEST PLACE TO PICK UP A MATE?:
WORST PLACE TO PICK UP A MATE?:
DO YOU HAVE A SAVINGS ACCOUNT?:
CHECKING?:
401K/RETIREMENT PLAN?:
CREDIT CARDS?:
HEALTH INSURANCE?:
DENTAL INSURANCE?:
LIFE INSURANCE?:
CAR INSURANCE, IF APPLICABLE?:
CREDIT SCORE?:
WOULD YOU DATE OUTSIDE OF YOUR RACE?:
WHAT ARE THE AGES OF YOUR DATING RANGE?:
PERSONALITY TYPE A OR B?:
NAME 3 PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE YOU?:
LIST 3 COMMON THINGS I'D HEAR FROM PEOPLE WHO KNOW YOU THE MOST?:
DESCRIBE YOURSELF IN 8 WORDS:
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED?:
HOW DID YOU FEEL & DO YOU KNOW WHY YOU WERE DUMPED?:
ARE YOU AFRAID OF COMMITMENT?:
LONGEST RELATIONSHIP YOU'VE HAD?:
DO YOU SMOKE CIGARETTES?:
WEED?:
METH?:
HEROIN?:
ANY OTHER DRUG(S)?:
DRINK?
SOCIAL DRINKER?:
FAVORITE PHRASE?:
YOUR MOTTO?:
HAVE YOU EVER SOLD DRUGS?:
HAVE ANY ADDICTIONS THAT INTERFERE WITH YOUR QUALITY OF LIFE?:
ANY FAMILY HISTORY OF HEALTH ISSUES I SHOULD BE WORRIED ABOUT?:
IN CLOSING ARE YOU WILLING TO PROVIDE 3 REFERENCES (EX'S):
3 REFERENCES(FRIENDS):
WHAT DO YOU BRING TO THE TABLE?:
NOW I MAY HAVE MISSED A FEW THINGS BUT PLEASE ADD ON IF YOU WANT TO. THIS IS JUST AN OUTLINE THAT CAN BE REVISED AT ANYTIME. PEOPLE FORGET WHEN DATING ITS A PROCESS AND YOU SHOULD NEVER FEEL AFRAID OR HESITANT TO ASK ANY QUESTION NO MATTER HOW OUT THERE THEY ARE. IF YOU VALUE IT THEN YOU NEED TO ASK TO SEE IF THE POTENTIAL "CLIENT" DOES AS WELL. NEVER SETTLE! WHEN YOU SETTLE YOU COMPROMISE AND USUALLY END UP IN A SITUATION YOU DON'T WANT TO BE IN. WHEN ASKING ANY ONE OF THESE QUESTIONS OR ONE YOU ADD ON TO THIS AND THAT PERSON HESITATES YOU KNOW THEY ARE EITHER GONNA LIE OR TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING. IN THAT MOMENT LISTEN TO YOUR GUT FEELING. IF YOU MEET SOMEONE WHO ANSWERS THESE QUESTIONS WITHOUT A BLINK YOU MAY HAVE FOUND A GREAT MATCH BUT BE A LITTLE CAUTIOUS WE ALL KNOW THE DEVIL HAS A DISGUISE FOR EVERYTHING. NO ONE IS PERFECT SO IF ITS ALL YOU WANT TO HEAR STEP BACK AND EVALUATE. ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION IT WILL NEVER STEER YOU WRONG.
SOUL~MYSOULONPAPER™
2010©LMJ
FULL NAME:
D.O.B.:
HEIGHT:
WEIGHT:
MEASUREMENTS(FEMALE):
SHOE SIZE:
ZODIAC:
U.S. CITIZEN:
IF NO ARE YOU IN PROCESS OF BECOMING A U/S/ CITIZEN? CAN YOU PROVIDE PROOF?:
NICKNAMES/ALIAS:
STATE OF CURRENT RESIDENCE:
RENT OR OWN?:
HOMETOWN:
HOW MANY PEOPLE IN HOUSEHOLD & WHO?:
HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOU MADE LESS $$ THAN YOUR MATE?:
HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOU WERE NOT THE BREADWINNER IN A RELATIONSHIP?:
MARITAL STATUS:
IF DIVORCED, HOW LONG?:
IF PREVIOUSLY MARRIED, HOW MANY TIMES & LENGTH OF MARRIAGE?:
IF PREVIOUSLY ENGAGED, HOW LONG & HOW MANY TIMES?:
IF NEVER MARRIED IS IT AN OPTION YOU WOULD CONSIDER?:
KIDS(SEX & AGES):
HAVE YOU EVER USED ABORTION AS A FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL?:
IF NO CHILDREN DID YOU ALMOST HAVE SOME?:
IF YOU HAVE NO CHILDREN WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE SOME?:
QTY OF MOTHERS/FATHERS:
DO YOU PAY CHILD SUPPORT, VOLUNTARILY/INVOLUNTARILY
CURRENT RELATIONSHIP WITH MOTHERS/FATHERS OF CHILDREN:
EMPLOYER:
LENGTH OF TIME AT CURRENT EMPLOYER:
HOW MANY JOBS IN LAST 5 YEARS:
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN CONVICTED OF A FELONY?:
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN ARRESTED?: IF MORE THAN ONCE, HOW MANY TIMES AND WHY?:
HAVE YOU SPENT TIME IN JAIL/PRISON? LENGTH OF BID?:
DATE OF LAST HIV/AIDS TEST:
CAN YOU PROVIDE PROOF OF RESULTS?:
WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO BE TESTED BEFORE HAVING SEX?:
HOW MANY SEX PARTNERS HAVE YOU HAD(INCLUDING 1 NIGHT STANDS)?:
EVER HAD A THREESOME?:
CONDOM TYPE USED?:
EVER HAD INTERCOURSE WITH THE SAME SEX?:
HAVE YOU EVER HAD AN STD? WHEN & WHAT?:
EVER SLEPT WITH A RELATIVE, KNOWINGLY/UNKNOWINGLY?:
DO YOU CURRENTLY TAKE ANY PRESCRIBED MEDICATIONS? IF SO, LIST MEDICATION & REASON FOR TAKING:
RELIGION?:
DO YOU BELIEVE IN GOD(WHATEVER NAME YOU CALL THE MOST HIGH)?:
DO YOU ATTEND CHURCH, A MOSQUE, KINGDOM HALL, OR SYNAGOGUE REGULARLY:
IF NOT DO YOU READ THE BIBLE, QUA'RAN OR OTHER BOOK RELATED TO YOUR RELIGION REGULARLY?:
HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA/GED?:
COLLEGE CREDITS OR COLLEGE DEGREE?:
IF DEGREE OBTAINED, WHAT COLLEGE AND YEAR?
MEMBER OF SORORITY/FRATERNITY?:
MEMBER OF MILITARY, IF SO WHAT BRANCH & HOW LONG?:
TATTOOS?:
HOW MANY AND LOCATION?:
GANG AFFILIATIONS:
PIERCINGS? IF SO HOW MANY & WHERE?:
FETISHES:
HOBBIES:
FAVORITE COLOR:
FOOD:
BOOK:
SONG:
SPORTS(PLAY(ED) OR LOVE TO WATCH):
HIDDEN TALENTS:
DO YOU OWN A SUIT?:
STATES VISITED:
COUNTRIES VISITED:
SIBLINGS:
POLITICAL VIEWS:
DO YOU VOTE? HAVE YOU EVER VOTED?:
ARE YOU ELIGIBLE TO VOTE?:
DO YOU HAVE A DRIVER'S LICENSE?:
EVER BEEN A VICTIM OF A VIOLENT CRIME?:
EVER HAD TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST AN EX?:
EVER BEEN INVOLVED IN A DOMESTIC DISPUTE? EXPLAIN:
HOW IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MOTHER?:
FATHER?:
SIBLINGS?:
CO-WORKERS?:
EMPLOYER?:
IN FIVE YEARS WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE IN LIFE?:
ARE YOU HAPPY OR CONTENT?:
LIST 5 THINGS YOU WOULD LIKE TO DO BUT ARE A LITTLE HESITANT ABOUT:
DO YOU COLLECT ITEMS EX: CARS, SPORTS MEMORABILIA, BOOKS, ETC.:
DESCRIBE YOUR IDEAL MATE:
WHAT ARE THE TOP 5 QUALITIES YOU CAN NOT SET ASIDE WHEN LOOKING FOR A MATE?:
PET PEEVES:
TURN ON(S):
TURN OFF(S):
EVER HAD A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?:
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS?:
HAVE YOU EVER CHEATED ON A MATE?:
HAVE YOU EVER DESTROYED A MATE'S PROPERTY BECAUSE OF ANGER/REVENGE?:
ARE YOU CONTROLLING?:
JEALOUS?:
HAVE YOU EVER STALKED AN EX?:
HAVE YOU EVER USED ANY CREDIT CARDS OR MONEY OF A MATE'S WITHOUT ASKING?:
CHEAP?:
AN INDIAN GIVER?:
SELFISH?:
ARE YOU STILL IN LOVE WITH AN EX?:
DO YOU WATCH PORN?:
FAVORITE TYPE?:
IS THERE ANYTHING YOU WON'T DO SEXUALLY?:
EVER BEEN SO DRUNK YOU WOKE UP NEXT TO SOMEONE YOU CAN'T REMEMBER?:
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS?:
ARE YOU GOOD FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX'S?:
DO YOU FEEL MEN & WOMEN CAN BE FRIENDS?: IF NOT WHY?:
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT DATING/MARRYING A WOMAN/MAN WITH CHILDREN?:
IF YOU COULDN'T HAVE CHILDREN & WANTED THEM WOULD YOU ADOPT?:
BEST PLACE TO PICK UP A MATE?:
WORST PLACE TO PICK UP A MATE?:
DO YOU HAVE A SAVINGS ACCOUNT?:
CHECKING?:
401K/RETIREMENT PLAN?:
CREDIT CARDS?:
HEALTH INSURANCE?:
DENTAL INSURANCE?:
LIFE INSURANCE?:
CAR INSURANCE, IF APPLICABLE?:
CREDIT SCORE?:
WOULD YOU DATE OUTSIDE OF YOUR RACE?:
WHAT ARE THE AGES OF YOUR DATING RANGE?:
PERSONALITY TYPE A OR B?:
NAME 3 PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE YOU?:
LIST 3 COMMON THINGS I'D HEAR FROM PEOPLE WHO KNOW YOU THE MOST?:
DESCRIBE YOURSELF IN 8 WORDS:
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED?:
HOW DID YOU FEEL & DO YOU KNOW WHY YOU WERE DUMPED?:
ARE YOU AFRAID OF COMMITMENT?:
LONGEST RELATIONSHIP YOU'VE HAD?:
DO YOU SMOKE CIGARETTES?:
WEED?:
METH?:
HEROIN?:
ANY OTHER DRUG(S)?:
DRINK?
SOCIAL DRINKER?:
FAVORITE PHRASE?:
YOUR MOTTO?:
HAVE YOU EVER SOLD DRUGS?:
HAVE ANY ADDICTIONS THAT INTERFERE WITH YOUR QUALITY OF LIFE?:
ANY FAMILY HISTORY OF HEALTH ISSUES I SHOULD BE WORRIED ABOUT?:
IN CLOSING ARE YOU WILLING TO PROVIDE 3 REFERENCES (EX'S):
3 REFERENCES(FRIENDS):
WHAT DO YOU BRING TO THE TABLE?:
NOW I MAY HAVE MISSED A FEW THINGS BUT PLEASE ADD ON IF YOU WANT TO. THIS IS JUST AN OUTLINE THAT CAN BE REVISED AT ANYTIME. PEOPLE FORGET WHEN DATING ITS A PROCESS AND YOU SHOULD NEVER FEEL AFRAID OR HESITANT TO ASK ANY QUESTION NO MATTER HOW OUT THERE THEY ARE. IF YOU VALUE IT THEN YOU NEED TO ASK TO SEE IF THE POTENTIAL "CLIENT" DOES AS WELL. NEVER SETTLE! WHEN YOU SETTLE YOU COMPROMISE AND USUALLY END UP IN A SITUATION YOU DON'T WANT TO BE IN. WHEN ASKING ANY ONE OF THESE QUESTIONS OR ONE YOU ADD ON TO THIS AND THAT PERSON HESITATES YOU KNOW THEY ARE EITHER GONNA LIE OR TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING. IN THAT MOMENT LISTEN TO YOUR GUT FEELING. IF YOU MEET SOMEONE WHO ANSWERS THESE QUESTIONS WITHOUT A BLINK YOU MAY HAVE FOUND A GREAT MATCH BUT BE A LITTLE CAUTIOUS WE ALL KNOW THE DEVIL HAS A DISGUISE FOR EVERYTHING. NO ONE IS PERFECT SO IF ITS ALL YOU WANT TO HEAR STEP BACK AND EVALUATE. ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION IT WILL NEVER STEER YOU WRONG.
SOUL~MYSOULONPAPER™
2010©LMJ
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