Monday, August 15, 2011

I LOVE black men BUT.................

The other day I was having a discussion on interracial dating, some interesting comments were made and I had to LMBO at a few. The "double standard" definitely came up a lot! It seems some black men feel a way about black women dating white men and most black women have an issue with black men dating white women. In my opinion black men have the advantage because they can date almost any race. Many of them give black women a bad rap with their "stereotypes", things such as black women have nothing but attitude, we like drama, too demanding, loud, care more about money amongst other things said, so other races are threatened/intimidated by us. Also most races would have an issue bringing the black woman home to their families. Black men have a little more acceptance with it because "boys will be boys".

Most black women including myself LOVE our black men but our options are drying up like a jheri curl with no activator after a hot summer day in Texas! Our black men are trading us in for every color of the rainbow for various reasons. Between jail, unemployment, STDs, homosexuality, freeloaders, mama's boys and anything else that knocks them out for eligible black women. Black men face some similar odds with black women as well so don't get your Fruit of The Looms in a bunch, its just not as much! Its hard out here for both sides but let's face the numbers there are more women in this world than men AND there are definitely more black women to black men. So when a black woman dates or marries outside of her race, can you blame her? Would you rather her date/marry one of the bad choices I listed, date a woman or just be single and wait her turn? That wait could be a LONG time! If you choose any of those answers that's pretty selfish. In this day and age seriously race should not even be a problem if both are happy. Let's be realistic now! Dating today is far more a task than 2 years ago let alone 10 years ago.

Now there are some women who look for a man to take care of them and dollars motivate them, doesn't matter what race is involved! Black women have more to eliminate them when looking to date other races than black men. With black men you have the "once you go black you never go back" rule, LOL. White women especially want to see if the "stories" about black men and their size are true so many of them are always game. Latin women, modern types mostly, love black men just as much as black women do. Black men no matter what their issues have the pick of the litter with women, ask Tiger Woods, LOL! Matter of fact don't ask him a damn thing his "game" is trash, but that's a whole other story, LMBO!

Now some black men say black women date white men for the wrong reasons BUT what about the black men who date white women for the wrong reasons: The ones who want someone to take care of them just because they're "laying the pipe down", for acceptance in corporate/political arenas, good credit, etc... More black men date other races for the wrong reason vs black women. Many black men give us a bad rap so not many other races want to mess with us so we don't really have that luxury of dating outside our race.

So in saying all that I'd date outside my race in a heartbeat, love has no color. I LOVE my black men BUT the odds of finding a good one is becoming slimmer and slimmer. At the end of the day we're all mixed and when the lights go out we're all the same color!

Now this blog may cause a lot of debate but it is what it is. I don't care who dates who and why. Many date/marry who they want for whatever reason, to each his/her own. I say have an open mind these days. You never know who you'll meet. I LOVE my black me they still love us?

August 2011


  1. I don't see anything wrong with this post. Or anything to cause an uproar. I have dated a Latino guy, well two. (smirk) And it was out of pure curiosity for me. It was fun. I learned somethings about what some of the bro's(blk guys)say about us(blk women). I found nothing wrong with the times we shared. I just couldn't bring myself to go any further knowing we were just seeking answers/confirmations on many topics/rumors and not interested in making something out of the relationships. However it was fun while it lasted. And I just may go there again, who knows. Now on that white guy thing. That road I've yet t to tread. It's going to take a little more time for me to get comfortable with that thought. Or he is going to have to be one hell of a "white guy".lol

  2. Thanks 4 reading & sharing, LMBO @ 1 hell of a white guy.

  3. Hey I'm in the category of mama's boys that are undatable. *jumping and waving hands* LMBO!!!!! Very good post, sis. You bring out some good vantage points, while still creating a mature stage for discourse on the topic. I have very strong opinions on the matter, but that's because I've lived the whole interracial thing in my family for over 25 years.

  4. i love black woman! whether saphire, quiet, or loud, attitude or smooth. love her thighs and hips and quick lips.. love how she culturally fits, pop cultural it! hue brown blue black to light.. she keeps it down and right... around the way girl is it black women are a gift